Negative influences are everywhere and can have a strong effect on your self-esteem. Don’t let out of control people and circumstances bring you down. Today we’re going to share 6 tips on how to minimize your exposure to negative people.
Staying calm, composed and maintaining strong self esteem can be difficult in today’s society. But do not worry as it is not impossible if you follow a few simple guidelines.
Everything and everyone around you can somehow affect your self-esteem for better or worse. Other people intentionally try to damage your self-image for their own selfish gains. Insecure people and being in or close to the wrong circumstances can ultimately destroy your self esteem and bring you down in ways you might not even notice until it’s too late. Here’s a few things you should do to take notice and what you should avoid:
1 : Are You in a Negative Work or Daily Environment?
Beware of living in our “dog eat dog” society where everyone else is fighting and trying to eat others alive just to get ahead. In this type of environment few if any will appreciate or acknowledge your contributions even if you work through lunch, dinner, nights and weekends. Unless you are lucky to work in a company with great culture and work-life balance, most of the time you will work too long and too hard with little or no help from others. This type of atmosphere will beat down your self-esteem. It’s important that you learn to set boundaries, openly speak to management or find a better job that is more suitable for both your personal and professional growth.
2: How Are Other Peoples Behavior Affecting You?
Gossiper’s, backstabbers, naggers, complainers, bullies or patronizers – whatever you want to call them, all have one thing in common – an un-relentless goal at getting ahead at the expense of others without regards to moral or ethical practices. Avoid them and do not be tempted to join them. They may get some short term advantage with their behavior but deep down you will find that most are very insecure, unhappy and ashamed of their behavior. But stay your own path and don’t sell your soul to get ahead. Questionable practices often leave to undesirable places and circumstances that will cause you many a sleepless nights and broken relationships.
3: Are You Standing Still in a Changing Environment?
In today’s fast moving society it is difficult if not impossible to avoid change. Changes challenge our paradigms and tests our flexibility, adaptability and alter the way we think. Changes can make your life difficult and may cause stress but, if it’s inevitable, you must accept it, don’t fight it and in time find ways to improve your life. And if possible, try to manage change and try to avoid multiple changes at the same time. If a particular change can’t be avoided, then welcome it as best you can. Change will be with us until the end of time, so eventually we all must learn to live with it.
4: How Are Your Past Experiences Affecting You?
We all carry some kind of “baggage” – past experiences which have influenced and molded us into who we are today. But some people live in their past experiences indefinitely until it wreaks havoc on other aspects of their lives. It really is okay to cry out loud when you experience pain. But try your best not to let that pain dominate your days and nights as over time it can turn into fears, phobias, depression and anxiety. If something painful happens, or has happened to you, get professional help such as a therapist or find a positive and constructive outlet release that built up pain. Because something bad has happened in your past, doesn’t mean it will happen to you again. Learn what you can from your bad experiences and try to move on as quickly as you can.
5: Be Careful With the ‘Always-On’ Negative World View
The television and internet news is often full of doom and gloom and it is true that around the world there are many people suffering war, famine or other natural or man-made disasters. Whilst I do not suggest you should not care and do nothing, remember that there are many beautiful positive things happening too. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negative aspects around the world. Learn to look for beauty too for, in building self esteem, we must learn how to be positive in a negative world.
6: Is it nature or is it nurture?
Are we a product of our biological inherited characteristics and traits (nature) or a product of the influences we are immersed in throughout our lives (nurture)? For most, I would say it is a little of both. True, some things are dictated by genetics such as your race, hair and eye color etc but there are also inherited conditions in which certain people or experiences have influenced your life, likes, dislikes and behaviors. At the end of the day, you are your own person and have the capacity to make your own choices. The preferences and lifestyle choices of your mother, father do not ultimately determine your destiny. Learn from your own experiences as well as others, so you can make the best choices that help you live your life’s good and purpose.
At the end of the day, it can be hard to keep positive all the time, especially when others and circumstances seem to be all conspiring to drag you down. You need to protect yourself and give yourself better situations in which it is easier to stay positive – starting with your everyday environment and the people you choose to spend your time with. By improving these 2 things you will improve your self-esteem and give yourself that necessary protection.
In the meantime and in between time, do your best to stay positive by minimizing your exposure to harmful people, environments and influences. And use affirmations and inspiring quotes to boost the positive influences in your life. And above all, look for simple ways to constantly remind yourself of the good things in your life and the good in you.